Three tips to guide you in expressing yourself with confidence. #3: Growth Mindset
Yesterday I expressed myself freely towards my friends when cancelling our plans. It made me realise that not everyone does this without feeling bad.
Saying no plays a big part in expressing yourself confidently. After doing a poll on social media asking if we say no enough — it’s clear most people struggle to express themselves freely.
So this guide will show you how to be confident in expressing yourself because when you are confident, people respect you. You become a magnet. Plus, the more you believe in yourself, the more others believe in you too!
Here are three tips that have helped me break into freelancing, building my business, and most importantly, BE ME!
1. Accept yourself
According to Psychology Today, confidence is:
“A belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life’s challenges and to succeed — and the willingness to act accordingly.”
You can build your confidence by believing in yourself — this comes through self-acceptance and self-love. Self-care, for me, is the ability to listen to my needs and nurture them. It has taken me time, but now I feel fine. After that, you will have the ability to succeed and inspire others.
Early on in breaking into freelancing, I was full of doubt. This showed me I had to look within and do some work to release fear and find faith. Through practising and teaching yoga, I focussed on the throat chakra for a few months as it helps to express yourself freely. I also began to practice saying who I am with confidence, so when I was asked, I’d say:
“I’m a writer, well-being coach, yoga teacher.”
This built up my self-confidence in expressing myself not only to others but myself! I needed to believe in my services and skills to succeed. What areas in your life do you lack confidence? Learn to accept and love yourself by looking in the mirror, smiling, and tell yourself who you are/who you want to be.
Manifest belief in becoming aware of who you are, then you will be able to express yourself with confidence. Next:
2. Listen to others
I’ve said this before; I’ll repeat it — learn to listen with open ears and love instead of expectations and judgment clouding your engagement to its fullest potential. Here’s how.
Listen to learn. Listen to love. Love to listen. Either way: The more you listen to others, the easier it gets to express yourself with confidence.
If you don’t like what you hear, then you will speak up. The most confident people spend more time asking, listening, and digesting words. I noticed this was one of my skills early on when deciding to become a coach. All my friends would come to me for advice, and then I’d see them thrive! I built up people’s confidence through my confidence — wow.
I knew I wanted to guide people to become more mindful and lead a healthy way of life when I heard people’s cries for help. As a well-being coach, it is my duty to listen. When I listen, I take your needs into account and answer with clarity and care. We should all aim to do this with friends, family, even strangers. Learn to love to listen!
Last but not least, have a:
3. Growth Mindset
According to Mind Tools,
“Self-confidence is vital in almost every aspect of our lives, yet many people struggle to find it.”
Why do we struggle? Because we limit ourselves, we compare ourselves. The list goes on. Stop looking at other people and look at yourself. Everything starts with you! Open up your mind and heart to all possibilities.
Dr Dweck discovered the growth mindset over 30 years ago when researching students’ attitudes
about failure. There are three mindsets: Fixed, mixed, growth. However, the good news is that research shows we can change a person’s mindset from fixed to growth!
Think about it: Our brain is a muscle. I say this to my meditation students on my 21-day course because it takes that amount of time to make a habit. Yes, I’m an optimist, but I genuinely believe that you have the power to grow in confidence, motivation, achievement — studies prove so!
All you have to do is start now. Start switching your brain from thinking “I can’t” to “I can” — make it your duty to do this every time self-limiting beliefs arise. If I can, you can too.
How to be confident in expressing yourself starts within; inner work is the answer. Build up confidence by accepting yourself, learning to love yourself, then listen to others with an open mind and praise yourself for taking steps. One step at a time, you will become more confident in expressing yourself.
Are you ready to build your self-confidence up? Book your free consultation call with me today!