Self-awareness is the ability to look at yourself critically to better your connection within and with others. The act of self-awareness can push you to reach your potential. I've recently been thinking about how I can apply my awareness in my own daily reflection, so here is how to become more self-aware in your daily life.
I've recently been stuck in a rut. There's many emotions and changes going on in my life (for all of us!), so I have noticed that I seek advice from my nearest and dearest. When I ask friends and family for feedback, I listen to them. Don't we want to listen to people who know us best? I do, at least.
Feedback from the people who are close to you will be honest and humble, maybe a bit bitter too! Stay open.
The best way to become more aware of how you feel, who you are, where you want to be, is to seek feedback. It is a critical element when we want to strive for spiritual development as well as personal development:
“We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve.”– Bill Gates
Secondly, when it comes to growing in your self-awareness, you must also know what you are good and bad at.
Know your strengths AND weaknesses
We live in a strength focussed world and it's wonderful!... Up to a certain point. For us to build up our best self, we need to know what isn't going so well for us either. I think a great way to do this is to write some reflections down at the end of a day.
It's great to acknowledge what you've succeeded in, but better to know where you're going wrong. It may take some questions to get this out of you, or simply a few minutes of thinking back on your day and what didn't make you feel OK.
As I outline the method of self-leadership in my first week in group coaching, self-reflection is a key part. When we reflect, we become more willing to be a better person.
"Self-reflection is the act of setting aside time, ideally every day, to quietly and honestly look at yourself, first as a person and then as a leader. As with most good habits, commitment and practice help us to improve." - John Keyser
Facing our weaknesses is tough. As Carl Jung says, "people will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls." If you are putting it off, some day negative emotions will arise again!
Notice your reactions
A key thing I like to do is when I'm in conversation with people, notice how I react to questions or the way I voice how I feel about things. Sometimes it's only in these moments that you become aware of how you truly feel about a certain part of your life!
Becoming mindful is like applying your attention to every detail. Your body language, your tone of voice etc. are all elements in this practice of self-awareness.
Have the courage to face your own shadows and notice your light and dark moments! Shadow-work may be painful, but it allows you to progress with self-awareness and liberation.
So there you have it: three ways on how to become more self-aware in your daily life! Seek feedback, be willing to see the positive and negative, as well as become more aware of how you are.