Ignorance is bliss, so they say
Is it just me or have the worldly matters made you rekindle and tie up some loose ends?
Well the other day, I messaged an ex after a long period of silence. Considering the current situation, I thought ‘it’s time’ to check-in — silly me; it wasn’t.
Just because I’ve changed, doesn’t mean he has. He read my message and chose to ignore it.
What do you do when this happens?
I used to get annoyed; not anymore. I’m done with wasting my energy on people who don’t deserve it.
Let’s learn how to deal with ignorance because let’s face it — people are ignorant no matter how much hope we may have in humanity.
Let go and look within
How many times have you wanted to let go and can’t? It’s hard to do, but once you exercise it enough and acknowledge your worth, it gets simpler with time.
After all, they do say:
Practice makes progress
In this case, I am tired of being ignored and entertaining the idea of harmony in my head. Ever think about how things ‘could be’, but then are never that way? We’ve all been there.
I’m done with this relationship — that’s not what it’s about here. It’s about wanting to tie up loose ends and not have any knots inside my heart that don’t serve me in moving forward. Yet I’ve realised it’s ME that’s not letting myself move forward because I yearn to just ‘be ok’ with this guy, even if I don’t need to be because I don’t see him in my future anymore.
It is time to let go and look within:
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy… Don’t lower your standards to keep anyone, if they’re not making you happy, it’s time to find someone who does.” — Robert Tew
With that said, how to deal with ignorance from someone you used to love means you must put:
Trust in timing
We met when I was 15. He was my first love — I was madly in love with him to the point I’d forgive him for being an asshole the whole time (we’ve all been there!). He was seven years my age and acted all mature, but wasn’t; still isn’t.
When he suddenly left to go back to his home country (Germany), and I was left in the UK sobbing my heart out the love story way, I didn’t notice my worth and begged him to come back. We stopped talking and got on with our lives until we met again seven years later.
Long story short: He was living in the city my parents were living in in the south of Germany — I
found out through the trustee Facebook. I messaged him, and we met up for a drink. It was perfect. We got on like a house on fire, and I felt like we’d changed so much, but what we had hadn’t changed; in fact, it was more intense.
After that short but sweet rendezvous, we stopped talking because *surprise surprise*, he ended up being a douche again. So here I am, two years since that meeting STILL wanting to make things right.
When I saw he had seen my message and chosen to ignore a simple ‘how are you doing?’, I wasn’t angry nor surprised. Right now, the timing and synchronicity of events in my life are letting me trust in the timing of life.
“Trust the timing of your life. Keep focusing on putting one foot in front of the other, be kind, and follow your heart. Doors will open effortlessly, but first you have to be ready to walk through.” — Brittany Burgunder
Some things aren’t meant to be, so stop wasting your energy.
Last but not least:
Most importantly, don’t get tied to this negative energy. If someone you once used to love still isn’t at the point of smoothing things over, then it’s not your duty to either.
Just because you want to make things right, doesn’t mean they do and that’s all in the lesson of moving forward, accepting, and forgiving.
The best thing we can do in life is to keep going and take the bad with the good. Life is a rollercoaster. Cliché but true. Even when we want to be the bigger person and bring harmony into past relationships that aren’t active anymore, sometimes it’s just not meant to be.
So now it is up to me to make peace with him and what we had; not him. I can let go and look within by focusing on the relationships that serve me well and don’t wind me up to the point where I think what I have done wrong now?
Put your trust in timing and let things be. As The Beatles once put it perfectly:
“And when the broken hearted people living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.”
Some things aren’t meant to be — let it be!
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