And the three questions to push you in the right direction
Ever find yourself moping around after a hard day of work daydreaming about travelling the world or starting your own company? I feel you. We’ve all been there — even the ones who do what they want to do!
I used to dream of being a yoga teacher and published author; now I am. No, I am not here to show off because it’s not been a smooth ride the past three months; for nobody it has.
However, I have finally pursued my passions when losing my mainstream income — which was holding me back — and ultimately, do what I want to do.
Stop waiting around and make your dreams come true — here’s how to do what you want to do because:
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” — Annie Dillard
What’s your dream?
Sounds cheesy, I know, but I’m going to say it anyway! — You can make your dreams come true; all it takes is a dollop of belief, a hand full of courage and a cup of willpower. Do you have a dream? Then how can you make it achievable? Set goals, visualize yourself, do
research, and the most significant advice of all:
Believe in yourself.
The moment I got over the barrier of self-doubt, fear, and anxiety when breaking into freelancing, was the moment things went swimmingly. OK, of course, I have days when I doubt if I’ll succeed still — don’t we all? It’s only human. I’ve trained my brain to think positively, or maybe I’ve just always been an optimistic person. Either way, be kind to yourself.
If you don’t have a dream or passion yet to pursue, don’t worry. Here’s how to find your ikigai and let it fulfil you. Scott Christ also sets seven powerful questions to find out what you want to do with your life. One of my favourites that will get to the route of your being is:
“If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?”
You see, when we follow our heart and make our dreams come true, our well-being and success ensue, too. As a well-being coach and yoga teacher, I feel much more healthy and happy with what I’m doing. I am helping others find peace within — that is my mission. I only found this out after searching, travelling, sticking my fingers into different pies (so one of my friends champions me for!) and giving myself space, time to think.
Time is of the essence, but isn’t it better to take a year off and explore rather than stick to what society tells us is secure? Don’t end up with many years of regret and be ready right now.
So do you want to make your life a story worth telling? Let’s see:
What is stopping you?
You may always be saying “I want to do this” or “I could do that” and never end up doing it. There is a difference between doing and achieving, and that’s the limiting beliefs that stop you from achieving what you want:
“Focus on the doing — the action, the behaviors, the decisions. It may be a means to a bigger end, but right now make the doing the end.” — Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W.
OK, so a lot might be stopping you — I get it. From financial security to overriding anxiety, it’s hard to do what you want to do without worrying at times. There’s good news, I promise:
“The very good news, however, is that aspiration is not a given; you can make yourself want to do things. This is a surprise to most of us: we think that we either want to do something or we don’t, and there’s not much we can do about it.” — Erika Anderson, Forbes contributor
Basically: Whatever it is you want to do — you can do it! Put your mind to it.
When I made a mind map, business plan, STOPPED COMPARING MYSELF(!) and started taking myself seriously, I followed my path with patience and progress at a rate I did not expect. I put trust in my abilities and allowed confidence to lead my way; now, I teach yoga every day.
During the past three months, I’ve achieved more than I thought I could in a year! — I wrote a short self-help book to get through changing times in one week and help people to lead a healthy and happy life.
Now, what about you?
Where do you see yourself in the future?
In Choose The Life You Want by Tal Ben-Shahar, he says when we set goals aligned with our passions, we succeed more — I agree. He outlines what doing what you want to do means in chapter 43:
“It means that I should construct my life as a whole so that the path my life takes is the one that I actively choose for myself.”
So take your time to visualize and find your flow — don’t let that dream go!